Where bending doesn’t mean breaking

You don’t have to white knuckle your way through this.

Conflict doesn’t get to run the show anymore

Empowering you to handle conflict without the chaos

Conflict is hard. Having support shouldn’t be.

We help you find the words when your voice shakes, the boundaries when everything feels blurry, and the calmer path forward when it all feels tangled.

You don’t have to navigate the big emotional stuff alone — we’re right here with tools, language, and a soft place to land while you figure out your next step.

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Meet our team

Hi, we’re Katie & Marta

We’re the co-founders of The Bend.

Together we’ve worked with hundreds of people navigating high-stakes divorce, intense family conflict, and relationship breakdowns both personal and professional.

We’re both trained mediators and communcation specialists. But more than that — we’re women who’ve lived through hard seasons.

We know exactly what it’s like to feel stuck, reactive, and unsure how to come back to yourself.

The Bend — and this course — exist because we believe conflict doesn’t have to destroy you.

You can bend without breaking.

And you can show up with steadiness…even when everything around you feels like a storm.

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  • "After weeks of feeling overwhelmed by the divorce process, I finally felt like I could breathe. The clarity and direction you provided have been a lifesaver — I walked away not only with next steps, but with renewed hope."

    DYLAN

  • "What made the biggest difference for me were the core personal pillars — they gave me a clear foundation to return to whenever I felt overwhelmed, and helped me make decisions with confidence. I can’t recommend this course enough!”

    JEN

  • “I entered my divorce chapter feeling lost and beaten down — unsure how to talk about money, kids, or even what I really wanted. I learned how to hold calm discussions with my ex, make decisions without second-guessing, and start to build a vision for a new chapter that didn’t feel like a pity party. Most importantly, I walked away believing I could handle this with dignity. If you’re ready to do it differently, this is the place.”

    SUSAN

  • "I was neck-deep in spreadsheets and lawyer quotes, wondering how this mess was going to end. Then I found this course, and everything changed. The simple frameworks helped me map out the finances, talk to my kids about what’s next, and design a separation that didn’t feel war-torn. I am still adjusting to this new life, but I’m doing it with clarity and even a little peace. You don’t have to go it alone.”

    AMY

  • "Thank you for lending both your heart and expertise — it has made a world of difference.”

    DANI

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